Individuals with ADHD usually have a hard time understanding social appropriateness and interactions, so they wind up being socially ostracized and, as the stating goes, they are the last selected but the first teased. Subsequently, the majority of people with ADHD grow into adulthood with an extensive sensation that they are less than everybody else in some way. They feel uncool and unwanted, and often even exceptionally faulty. The term you’ll hear really commonly is “damaged items,” which the individual with ADHD feels typically unskilled worldwide.
The typical kid with ADHD hears 20,000 additional important or corrective messages prior to their 12th birthday, far more than a kid who does not have ADHD. That criticism can have a considerable effect on the self-image and self-regard of an individual with ADHD.
The resulting shame and regret frequently produce a situation where favorable feedback just slings right past them. They never ever even observe it. They’re far more in tune to the unfavorable feedback they get. As a result, the shame generally controls all the other feelings. As Freud said, “Shame is the master feeling.” It’s the only feeling that does not look for expression and it can determine whether other feelings get revealed and even acknowledged and dealt with.